Kevin Kelly

68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice

https://kk.org/thetechnium/68-bits-of-unsolicited-advice/

昨天刚写过,不喜欢听从别人建议。今天就阅读 kk 给的建议。

1.学会从那些你不同意的人身上学习,甚至那些冒犯过你的人。看看你能否从他们的信仰中找到真理。

Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.

这种品质不容易做到。当看到一个不喜欢的人时,第一时间想到的是对方令自己不舒服的点,就顾不上观察到对方那些值得自己学习的地方。而这恰恰是我要努力克服的地方。

2.保持热情等价于 25 分IQ。

Being enthusiatic is worth 25 IQ points.

昨天刚写了一首诗,问自己的热情都去哪了。

3.总为自己要做的事情设一个截止日期。最后期限能够降低不重要和一般的事项的优先级。它阻止你把它变得完美,所以你不得不让它有所不同。不同是更好的。

Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.

从 21 年开始,我不再设置 deadline,也就没有了要完成事项的紧迫感。我度过了一段缓慢时光。或许是时候重启 deadline 了,让自己更专注和高效。

4.不要害怕蠢问题,因为别人在 99% 的时间里都在想着同样的问题,却因为为难而没有发问。

Don't be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.

我从不问蠢问题,因为我从不问问题。因为我觉得没什么好问的,答案自己能够找到。

5.善于倾听是一种超能力。当听某人说话时,你可以不断问他们:“还有更多吗?”,直到真的没有了。

Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them "Is there more?", until there is no more.

我还蛮善于倾听的,听别人说话时都会很有耐心;时不时会问接下来的发展。

6.一个有意义的年度目标:学习大量某个领域的领域的知识;以至于感叹一年前的自己是多么无知。

A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can't believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.

期待年底总结的时候看到自己的进步。

7.感谢可以激发其他美德,让你变得更好。

Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.

学习如何感谢别人的帮助,在自己的能力范围内帮助别人。

8.没有人会拒绝被请吃饭,这(请人吃饭)很容易做到。容易和老朋友沟通感情,也利于结交新朋友。

Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It's powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.

我不会请人吃饭,这应该不难。

9.没有百试百灵的办法。

Don't trust all-purpose glue.

具体问题总在变换,前人的经验无法照搬,要学会变通。

10.经常为你的孩子读一些内容,不仅能让你们关系融洽,还能激发他们的想象力。

Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.

阅读活动让亲子关系变得融洽。

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